Parenting With Purpose

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Proverbs 22:6 “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”

Proverbs 29:17 “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.”

Think

Parenting often feels like balancing a high-wire act. Comedian Jim Gaffigan nailed it when he joked, “Most of the time, I feel entirely unqualified to be a parent. I call these times ‘being awake.’” Parenting can be overwhelming, and it’s easy to end up revolving our whole world around our kids’ wants and needs. However, a child-centered home, while well-intentioned, can end up leaving parents exhausted and kids believing they’re the center of the universe. Our role isn’t to orbit around them but to guide them toward a life that values others, responsibility, and a greater purpose.

The Bible reminds us that our children are a gift from God, given to us to raise with love and wisdom (Psalm 127:3). One way we do this is by balancing connection and correction. Too much praise, especially for small things, can lead kids to crave constant validation. Research shows that children who receive balanced feedback develop a healthier self-motivation, finding satisfaction in contributing without needing external rewards. Instead of constant applause, a simple “thank you” or “I appreciate your help” encourages them to recognize their own efforts, building self-confidence and humility.

Working alongside our children also models Jesus’ way of serving others. Instead of barking orders from across the room, try engaging with them directly. If they leave a door open, saying, “Let’s go close the door together” shows them that family life is about teamwork. Children are more willing to listen and learn when they feel part of a shared mission rather than just following commands. These small moments help them see that they’re a valued part of the family and that serving one another is love.

God entrusts us with the responsibility to guide our kids gracefully and truthfully. As we lead with connection, firm boundaries, and faith, our children learn that life isn’t all about them. They begin to see the importance of mutual respect, shared effort, and a faith-driven purpose. This approach helps them develop a grounded sense of self, preparing them for a life that values community and contribution, rooted in God’s love and wisdom.

Apply

If you have children, set aside one chore or task that you and your child can work on together, like cleaning up after dinner or organizing a shared space. Use this time to bond and show them the value of teamwork in a relaxed, supportive environment. If you don’t have children in your home, look for an opportunity to serve someone. We need this reminder that we’re all in this together!

Pray

Heavenly Father, thank you for the gift of parenting. Help me lead with love and wisdom, teaching my children responsibility and respect. Give me patience to guide them well and the strength to set boundaries rooted in love. Let our family reflect your kindness, grace, and purpose. In Jesus’ name. Amen.